Hint: It's me :) I wish I could say that was definitely true but in reality the right psychologist for you might actually be someone else. Like all good relationships, it's about finding a match. Choosing a psychologist is an important decision, and with the myriad of amazing mental health professionals in Melbourne it can seem quite daunting. To help demystify the process I've outlined the different types of mental health professionals and various therapies you might find appealing. By understanding specifically what you are looking for, you'll be able to consider each psychologist, or other mental health professional based on criteria specifically relevant to your needs. Hopefully, the process will then become a quick, tick the boxes exercise. The psychologists with the most ticks will form your short-list and a brief chat with each of them will help you get an idea for whether you would be comfortable working with them. Try not to get stuck going from website to website. In the end, it might just come down to your gut feeling. Start somewhere. Read more...
I'm working from home today and originally planned to write first thing this morning (on a completely different topic) but when it came time to start, I suddenly noticed innumerable other things that needed to be done. I told myself it would be better to get them 'out of the way', but who am I kidding. I just didn't feel like writing. So, it's now 11.00am and I'm just starting. My house is clean, the shopping is done, and I've even answered some emails, checked social media and played with the dog. I don't know about you, but I get surprisingly productive and somewhat side-tracked when there's something I don't feel like doing especially if I have to (oh and I accepted an invitation to lunch with a friend I haven't seen for a while).
It got me thinking, and it makes sense really. Some tasks just make us feel bad. Cortisol, adrenaline, and norepinephrine send us into fight, flight or freeze mode. So what do we do? Well, in fight mode, we get cranky and stubbornly refuse to do the task, denouncing it as stupid, useless, or a waste of time, etc. Sometimes our instinct is to flee - escape physically or mentally - spend time with friends, eat, check social media, surf the net, play games, or do anything other than the ‘odious’ task - even ones that seem less odious at the time like cleaning or shopping. Other times we freeze - literally do nothing, just stare blankly at the computer screen. Why? They all stop the bad feelings by giving us a sense of control. Unfortunately, they're only temporary solutions to our pain. The task still needs to be done (and often gets harder) and so begins the vicious cycle.
What makes love last? Why does it fade? How do we decide if our partner is who we need them to be? Unconsciously, we regularly look to them for reassurance and wonder:
Success is not a solo pursuit - it's a team effort. You know this. You no doubt have some great support people amongst your family, friends, and colleagues. You no doubt employ a range of 'switched on' and trusted professionals - accountants, financial advisors, mechanics, baby sitters, doctors, cleaners, etc. The team approach not only smart, it's just good old fashioned common sense. There are only 24 hours in a day, and everybody has their strengths. Having a team means you are not alone on the road to success. You have access to the best resources to solve practical problems before they arise and provide a safety net if they do.
Yet, for some reason, when it comes to problems of a personal nature, most people hesitate to seek professional support because we think it means we are failing or weak. But the simple truth is, life can be incredibly complicated and quite challenging to say the least! Everybody struggles from time to time. Juggling relationships, children, work, friends, relatives, work, chores, and squeezing in some time for yourself or a little fun can seem like an impossible dream. No matter how well organised you are, every which way you turn there's yet another thing to sort out, or something or someone demanding your attention. New problems can be quite daunting or overwhelming, and old ones become a continual source of frustration.
DEBORAH FARRELL (MCounPsych)