Success is not a solo pursuit - it's a team effort. You know this. You no doubt have some great support people amongst your family, friends, and colleagues. You no doubt employ a range of 'switched on' and trusted professionals - accountants, financial advisors, mechanics, baby sitters, doctors, cleaners, etc. The team approach not only smart, it's just good old fashioned common sense. There are only 24 hours in a day, and everybody has their strengths. Having a team means you are not alone on the road to success. You have access to the best resources to solve practical problems before they arise and provide a safety net if they do.
Yet, for some reason, when it comes to problems of a personal nature, most people hesitate to seek professional support because we think it means we are failing or weak. But the simple truth is, life can be incredibly complicated and quite challenging to say the least! Everybody struggles from time to time. Juggling relationships, children, work, friends, relatives, work, chores, and squeezing in some time for yourself or a little fun can seem like an impossible dream. No matter how well organised you are, every which way you turn there's yet another thing to sort out, or something or someone demanding your attention. New problems can be quite daunting or overwhelming, and old ones become a continual source of frustration.
Scientists in the 19th century discovered that if they put a frog into a pot of boiling water, it would immediately jump straight out (surprise, surprise). More importantly, they also found that if they put a frog into a pot of cold water and set it to boil slowly enough, the frog would stay in the pot and boil to death. Apparently the frog was able to adjust to each incremental change in temperature without realising that the situation had become so dire. Now, although that experiment is questionable on so many levels (and please don’t try it at home), it is a great metaphor for life. Often we do just keep adjusting to each small change in our environment, circumstances, or the expectations of others, without realising the collective impact of our actions.
DEBORAH FARRELL (MCounPsych)